Mentor, Work Relations, Asking for help, Communication, Millennials in the Workplace
WORKPLACE SUCCESS / 14 December 2016
Dear Mentor, I Need your Help!
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Brittanei Cain

Dear Mentor,

I’ve been having a tough time in school lately and I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I’ve been trying to stay organized like you told me, but I just can’t get everything together. My grades are slipping and I know that I’m too involved in school but I can’t afford to let anything go. My brain is racing a mile a minute and I’m not sure where to go from here. I really need some guidance, can I set up a meeting with you to discuss what’s going on.

Thank you so much for taking the time to listen. Have a great day!

-Britt

The letter above is something that I would have sent to my mentor before I knew the correct method. Of course, it’s easy to tell your mentor how hard life is and what you are doing to fix it, but how would you REALLY like them to help. As much as we would like to think that our mentors can read our minds, unfortunately, they are not superheroes. And, if you haven’t found a mentor yet, here is a great post of the best places to find your next mentor.

If we need help, we need to ask in a way that our mentor knows exactly how to get us on track (if you need help forming the right questions, read this article that lists the top 10 questions you should be asking) . You should come to your mentor with a plan and ideas to fix your problems. Detailed notes are needed in order for your mentor to understand. I know we all have super awesome mentors, but they are busy just like us and sometimes, overwhelmed in their own right. Before we ask for help, we must help ourselves figure out the root of the problem.

Before asking for help from your mentor, come prepared.

Make a list of everything that you are having issues with and potential solutions to your problem. Your mentor will be able to understand the direction that you are going in and be able to help better with a little guidance. Ask questions and make the most out of your meetings. If you have predetermined questions, you will be able guide your conversations and get the best out of your conversation. Be honest! No one can help you aren’t being honest. Being honest with yourself as well as your mentor will help you so much in the long run. Do not wait until it’s too late to ask for help!

Prep early. If you notice that you are getting overwhelmed or that you are not where you want to be, discuss it with your mentor immediately so that you can discuss your plan for success. When it’s too late, there’s not much anyone can do. What if you need help in life the day before? And your mentor doesn’t read your email or text till the next day. You might be out of luck. Ask for help early on and continue to ask questions along the way in order to decrease further development.

This will make the process smoother for both you and your mentor and you’ll have a better understanding of the progress that you need to make.

Dear mentor,

I hope you are having a better day than I am. I really behind in school and I’m just not where I want to be in life. I’ve been trying to stay organized but it hasn’t been working for me lately. I’m going to make a list of all of the things I need to do in order to stay on top of everything. My grades are slowly falling and I haven’t been doing much of my homework lately (which is my bad, I know) but I’ve started going to tutoring and looking up study tips. Do you have anymore suggestions? I have a few questions to ask you soon and I’d love to talk to you about my issues. I’ve attached a copy of my new school and work schedule and hopefully we can set up a time to meet soon.

I look forward to hearing from you.

-Britt

At the end of the day, you have to know your mentor and how you operate with them. My personal mentors don’t help me until I’ve already helped myself or have a plan set. They help my execution instead of catering to my every need. Because of them, I’ve become a better problem solver and am happier in life because of it!

If you are looking for a mentor and are stuck, check out ProSky’s projectships, where you get to work with real people and real companies, who knows, you may even find your next mentor!