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Sick of awkward moments? Tired of clamming up and getting tongue tied? Really want to express your confidence but don’t know how?
Well, then it’s time to get personal. You need to learn how to communicate, effectively. Displaying confidence is one of the most important ways to make a great first impression to a recruiter.
Don’t worry, we’ve all been there before. Whether it’s at the neighborhood Christmas party or at work with your boss, everyone’s had their share of awkwardness.
Here's a list of things you need to do to make your confidence shine:
1. Improve Your Silent Communication
We’ve all heard that actions speak louder than words, and that’s literally the case with nonverbal communication. We might say one thing, but our face or body means something completely different. If you’re happy, try letting your face reflect that. If you are like me and wear your emotions on your sleeves, recruiters may be able to pick up slight nuances, like when you are uneasy with what they say or the way they respond to something. Putting on a poker face is not easy to do, and while it is encouraged to be honest and yourself during an interview, remember that recruiters are in judgment mode because they have to be. So to help you, here are some helpful tips to improve upon your non-verbal communication cues.
2. Maintain Eye Contact
This is a must. It shows engagement, confidence, and control. As the saying goes, the eyes are the window to the soul. However, you may not want to stare directly into the eyes the entire time as it can be received negatively. Try subtly shifting focus to various parts of the face. While they are talking you can shift from the eyes, to to the nose, back to the eyes, then to one side of the face and back again at the eyes. This will actually help with increasing focus and attention while someone is speaking to you.
3. Share Goals
It is important to discuss in great detail the goals you have for yourself, with the company and even in 5 and 10-year increments. You may be asked this during your interview, but if you are not specifically asked, make sure you somewhat incorporate the answer in your interview. Goals provide motivation and drive. Purpose-driven people tend to be more confident, which attracts other people. Sharing goals with others shows intelligence, confidence, and success. Recruiters will pick up on that and you will be sure to stand out.
The world seems to be short on great listeners. Good listening doesn’t mean just sitting back and doing nothing. All the above skills help in active listening which means listening to understand and then to respond. Great listening skills translate into the workforce as well as you will have to be listening to bosses, coworkers, clients, customers, and the list goes on and on. If you become a CEO someday, you have to especially develop good listening skills, since you will be answering to stakeholders and investors. No matter where you are, you have to know how to listen and when to listen.
5. Ask Questions
Only the police interrogate others, but asking simple questions can show your interest in people. Questions keep conversations flowing and really allow you to learn something about the other person. Don’t forget to be direct but unobtrusive when asking questions or asking for things that you want. Beating around the bush gets you nowhere, and makes you look unconfident.
6. Don’t Force a Conversation
It’s best to know when to end a conversation. Recognize when someone’s tired of talking and just needs a break. You may be confident, but you don’t want to be annoying or taking over the interview. There is a line between confidence and arrogance - be careful not to cross it.
For more great tips on building confidence, check out our 5 tips for the ultimate confidence boosters
In the end, just remember that happy people are the most confident people. Be courteous, understanding, and appreciative. This confidence can help you win friends, influence people, grow your network, and even get a job. Soft skills are incredibly important to showcase to recruiters and hiring managers.
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