WORKPLACE SUCCESS / 01 April 2019Taking Your NYR to the next step
I’ll level with you guys for a minute. The job hunt sucks. We know that chances are that we’re not going to land that first job we interviewed for, and we know that chances are it might even be a while until we get an interview. I’ve personally gone through each stage of the job hunt.
I’ve experienced the beginning excitement and motivation to try something new, the willingness to make compromises and broaden my job search, the mad attempt to find anything with a paycheck, and well, the beat-down of each and every rejection resulting in a sad and tired state of hopelessness. Let’s be honest, the worst part about the job hunt is getting rejected. So the real question now is how to stay motivated after getting rejected.
If there was any word that you could use to move on from one rejection to the next, to continue applying for jobs, that word would be "acceptance". Now I’m not talking about accepting the sad truth that you might not get your dream job, or even accepting the fact that for some unknown divine reason, you haven’t found a job yet because it isn’t that time yet. I’m talking about accepting the fact that at the end of the day, you’re putting the best you out there in front of whoever is reading your resume and whoever you’re meeting for an interview.
It’s the acceptance that even after all that, you really just might not be what they’re looking for and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Companies are looking for the right fit for their company and it’s important to realize that you need to find the right fit for you as well. I’ve left jobs simply because of that reason and while it does put me back on the job hunt, I’d rather be looking for something I’m going to enjoy than stay at a place that I hate.
Just Be You
What’s important to understand is that depending on the job you’re applying for, some of these interviewers may be looking for a very specific type of person. Remember, interviews aren’t just about talking about your experiences or about the job. For interviewers, it’s about actually getting to see the type of person you are. If you’re like me and a little more laid back then show them that. No one ever said that who you are was a bad thing. If you have to be someone different in order to get a job, chances are you’re going to hate that job at some point. Wouldn’t you rather wait a couple more weeks for an interview with a company you actually could fit well in than take a job now and risk quitting shortly after getting hired?
I’m not going to lie to you guys, it gets tough looking for jobs and it’s even harder getting rejected. The best way to get through it is to just take a moment to remember who you really are, to realize the person that you ‘re showing these people, to realize that that’s all you can do and that’s all you have to do.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to take some time to just relax. When I’m job hunting and I’ve been rejected more times than I’d like, I honestly take a week off from it all to not only relax and get my head straight, but to just understand that if I wasn’t what they were really looking for, then there’s a chance that they weren’t really what I was looking for.
So, What Now?
I’m not telling you that you have to accept this because it’s just the way it is, or because you have to, I’m saying to accept it because it’s the best way to not only stay motivated, but to throw out any doubts you had about your interview skills or resume, or even about yourself. Chances are it’s not your first time job hunting and if it is then even better, you now have the secret, but if it isn’t then you already know how it all works, and so you’ve polished your resume and interview skills and hopefully dry-cleaned your suit if you needed to. The last thing you need is to doubt everything you’ve done, so the best thing to do is accept who you are and be confident about you bring to the table. This is the first step.
The second step: take some time off. This step is really more of just a continuation of the first step, but sometimes the best way to learn to accept everything is to get away from it and get back to the person you are. Like I said before, when I’m on the job hunt I like to take a week off if things aren’t going well. I like to get back to the life I have outside of my job; get back to my roots and I think it’s a good idea for you guys to do that too. Maybe getting back to your roots will help you learn something you never realized about yourself or maybe even something you’ve forgotten. If you don’t know who you are, then how are the interviewers going to get to know you?
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